I hope all is well with you. Things are going well for me and I am truly getting into my experience. It's almost mid-November, President Obama was re-elected, it's almost Thanksgiving, National Day, and then the trimester will be over. We have 3 weeks off for break and I am going to travel a bit. I'm excited about my trip to Rome, then home, then finally ringing in the new year in Paris.
Within all of this excitement is a hint of sadness. My three weeks away from Abu Dhabi means three weeks away from my honey.
You guys: YOUR HONEY
Me: Yes my honey
When I moved to Abu Dhabi, I wondered how the dating scene would be. Being that this is a Muslim and somewhat conservative country, I thought the dating process would be tough and hard to navigate. I've heard a range of tales; women dating Emirati men for riches instead of love, dating for convenience, the assumption that black women are prostitutes, being a 2nd or possibly a 3rd wife, or perhaps truly finding a life partner. Like home, in the US, the dating scene yields a variety of people and experiences. Unlike home, there is a wealth of interracial dating especially in Dubai.
I am completely open to dating across racial lines because it offers a broader pool and a greater chance of finding my Mr. I've never held to the notion that my Mr. had to be African-American therefore, I somewhat expected to date outside my race once I arrived.
I have received a few emails from African-American women who seek employment here and inquire about dating. I always express that an open mind is needed (professionally & personally) and if you're looking for your prince to be African-American, this may not be the place to find him. There are African-American men here but not in abundance. In addition, like home, they are dating outside their race as well, or dating on the side because they are married. (Just my opinion) Therefore, I strongly encourage African-American women to become open to new dating possibilities.
Courtship in the UAE is a bit traditional and conservative. I've met a few guys and none of their approaches were overt. Each meeting was subtle and respectful which left a lot of mystery and cause to want further engagement. However, only one of the guys truly caught my eye. I would see him out often and there would be an extended greeting or slight rub on the hand and the glances between us became longer. One day, by chance, we exchanged phone numbers, texted, went on a date, and haven't been apart sense.
Dating here is certainly not impossible. In fact, most ladies in my circle are dating or have dated. They are all open to dating men other than African American. One dated an Egyptian, a Pakistani, Indian, a guy from South America, a white British, and an Emirati. The experiences vary but being open to new experiences have afforded them and me, the opportunity for dating, romance, and love.
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