Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Ring Around the Collar


Ring Around the Collar

Women in circles across the world frequently debate Mr. Blue Collar and Mr. White Collar. Because we are visual beings and attraction is the first connection between a pair, many argue that appeal and desire are huge factors in the selection of a mate.

Some women long for the manly physical appeal that the blue collar man often exudes. His physical presence give the appearance of strength, support and safety.He is often tall, muscular, athletically inclined yet lacking in the area of scholarship. Blue collar men vary from police officers, contractors, and men in uniform while his opposing counterpart opts for hard bottoms, khakis, lab jackets or a suit.

White collar men are often associated with being socially awkward nerds. Formally, these guys had little to no appeal and the social connection just wasn't there. However, with the explosion of  social media, white collar men are transforming today's society. Mr. White Collar seems to be gaining steady ground on the variable of appeal.

The stereotypes that align with each man may hinder a would be suitor of an acceptable mate. Should women make judgements on physical appeal alone? Attraction does matter, right?


Who's your man of choice physically? On instant, who catches your eye first, then delve into the characteristics?



Sunday, November 27, 2011

Deal or No Deal


Deal or No Deal

Black Friday and Small Business Saturday are now behind us. Many savvy shoppers, crowd "avoiders" and deal seekers are geared and ready for GO - Cyber Monday.

My sister and I dared to brave the crowds of Black Friday only to find there wasn't a crowd. I assume that our turkey meal caused a bit of "iTis" and we didn't hit the stores at midnight like we originally planned, like we always plan, because we typically get up around "normal time" on Black Friday. We went to the mall, JC Penny, Ross, Marshall's, Starbucks, the mall again, Big Lots, Von Maur, Dilliard's, Gap, Apple (they had a crowd) and some shoe stores - no real crowds.

The Pros - no crowds anywhere. No lines, no running, no ratchetness, just easy breezy shopping. We weren't looking for anything in particular, we just wanted to be out and about. She found an iPod home deck radio thing, some tights, and I found some clothes and a mixing bowl. How exciting!

We also had a few good meals and enjoyed people watching. We looked at houses and what not too. (Jumps for joy)





The Cons - Some simpleton hit my car and left. Too bad he thought that he was in the clear, someone got the tag number and left a note. Now I have to deal with the drama. The other con is that I have way toomany leftovers and they now have to dub as lunch for the rest of the week. Hearing about the frivolous fighting, pepper spraying, and foolery in the news is always a con. There's nothing about a TV, toys, and a 1 dollar pair of panties that's ever serious enough for me to engage like a rabid animal.

What did you guys do? 

Did you catch a lot of great deals? See some ratchetness?

Tell me all about it.

Thursday, November 24, 2011

Gobble Til You Wobble - Happy Thanksgiving.


Gobble Til You Wobble - Happy Thanksgiving

I am thankful that I can be thankful. - Dr. R


Tuesday, November 22, 2011

The Man and His Beauty


The Man and His Beauty

Good looking is contagious. Its alluring, its engaging, its infectious, and a nearly billion dollar industry. In mainstream media, we are inundated with products and services, geared towards women, on how to improve, enhance, and maintain our womanly woos. Throughout an episode of your favorite television show, there are numerous images of beauty, typically women. For men, the advertisements are generally a bit a soap, water, or beer. Eh, that leaves a lot of room for improvement. Because my love for man runs deep, I want to fill in the blanks with a few suggestions that advertisers failed to share.

1. Basic grooming is all well and good, but let's add a bit of up to date scents to that hint of Dial soap. Please ditch the Obsession, Cool Water, and the rest of the aromas from the 90s. Those hadn't been cool since Fubu.

2. Less is more in the hair department. I know men are funny about shaving and think it's a girly activity, but men, we aren't the least bit turned on by the original tresses on head (locs excluded), armpits or pubes. Please trim. It's neater and cleaner. 
3. Speaking of hair. Sigh. I know the 70s had strong images of men, but the only man and I mean the only man who can sport a thick mustache is Steve Harvey. The rest of you, trim it - and NOT pencil thin either. Consult Ice Cube, he has the facial hair presentation down to a perfect science.


4. Pull your pants up. If I need to explain further, my fees are $125 hour with a 2 hour minimum.

5. Smile a natural smile. White teeth, no golds, no diamonds, no mother of pearl, no cracks and no snags. 


Ladies, what other industry gaps are prevalent? Let our guys know. Caring is sharing.

Thank us later.



Monday, November 21, 2011

Music Review Monday - "Celebration" - Kool and The Gang




Music Review Monday - "Celebration" - Kool and The Gang

I am so pleased to announce my first give-a-way winner, Ms. Kari.

I used Random.org but I couldn't figure out how to post the little counter. 

Nineteen entries, the random number was 12.

Ms. Kari, please claim your gift by Friday.

Thanks again for all your support. Next give-a-way from me, #250. Let's get there.



Friday, November 18, 2011

The Happiest Hour


The Happiest Hour

The happiest hour is happy hour. 

Happy hour is a meeting of friends and colleagues to celebrate the end of a work day/week. It is typically between the hours of 4 - 7 pm and hosted by bars, restaurants, pubs, and lounges within the city. Happy hour  offers half priced drinks with discounted or free appetizers. 

Happy hours vary location and city. Some locations are extremely casual in which jeans and relaxed wear are appropriate. Some happy hour spots are slightly more upscale and the attire is professional: meaning no jeans or athletic wear. Knowing the pulse of the venue prior to arrival will help to your maximize happy hour experience. Your mood, motivation, and attire should drive your happy hour selections. Below are a few suggestions on making the most of your happy hour experience.
Happy hour is the happiest hour. - Refresh before happy hour. If heading to happy hour right after work, refresh your appearance and attitude. Refresh your smile/breath/hair/clothing. Drink a glass of water to hydrate which will also decrease chances of intoxication. Feeling good on arrival will help in feeling swell while there. 

Take the pulse. - Each happy hour location has a unique vibe. If you desire something a little less fussy, try a casual place like a chain restaurant such as The Cheesecake Factory, Chili's, or local catina. These places are jean and sneaker friendly. If you desire something a bit more upscale, try lounges within hotels or upscale bars. Here you will find attendees in professional and trendy dress.

Know your limits. - Understanding your limits on alcohol intake is important. If you are out with friends and especially colleagues being "tipsy" is not attractive. Most importantly, remain within a clear mind. Maintain the ability to make sound decisions. Who wants to wake up next to John Q. Who the next day?

Carry cash. - This helps to minimize confusion on dividing the tab while protecting your credit card information.

Seize the moment. - A variety of people attend happy hour. Be yourself, but be prepared to make connections and network. However, being over zealous or appearing "thirsty" is a turn off. Read body language. Opportunities are everywhere.

Where are you having happy hour today?

Wednesday, November 16, 2011

It's Time for a Give-a-Way

It's Time for a Give-a-Way

I am so pleased to announce my very first give-a-way. 

The Goal: 100 Google Friend Subscribers 

Her Perfect Black Dress with Dr. Reginia are deeply appreciative of your input, comments, and support.

I've blogged on and off since 2007 and made a comeback in late July of this year.

I've met so many great people, other bloggers, professional contacts, and a few bouts with shenanigans which all make for good content.

Now on to the good part - The GIVE-A-WAY! 



We are giving away a $50 gift card. (Visa or American Express)

It's pretty easy: 
  1. LIKE our Facebook Page
  2. Follow me on Twitter
  3. then reply "I'm entered". 


1 entry per person

Entries will be taken until Sunday November 20, 2011. 
The winner is randomly selected.
 I would love to get your gift card out to you before Black Friday.

Thanks so much for your continued support.

Monday, November 14, 2011

Music Review Monday - Dedication to Heavy D


Music Review Monday - Dedication to Heavy D

Hip Hop Music Legend and Pioneer, Dwight Arrington Myers better known as Heavy D, transitioned on November 8, 2011. 

Above is his final performance from the 2011 BET Hip Hop Awards.

Heavy D was the lead man of Heavy D and The Boyz; a hip-hop group that brought style, fun, dance, and hip-hop love to the 1990s music scene. Heavy D was known as the Overweight Lover partly because of size but mostly because of his affinity for beautiful women. Heavy D had a unique presentation that mesmerized his female fans. There wasn't a concert in which he wasn't bestowed with female artifacts thrust upon stage.

Heavy D and The Boyz had a long list of hits: Girls They Love Me, Nuttin But Love, Somebody For Me, and Mr. Big Stuff.

His legend will be forever remembered.

A respectful adieu........




Sunday, November 13, 2011

In My 30's...


In My 30's...

Turning 30 is such a pivotal age in a woman's life. It is the marker of certain successors and baselines. Before 30, women envision accomplishments in our respective careers, families, and personal lives. During our 20s, we work towards the goals of By the Time I am 30. As a 20 something year old, the decade of 30s seem so far away. Formerly, our 30s were the beginning of the end, however it is no longer a vision of spinster lifestyles, frolicking with the frumpy, or the point of withering for retirement.

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Today, a woman in her 30s is often the vision of poise, grace, accomplishments, and all things in between. By 30, we have experienced the bumps of our 20s, and the somewhat shameful life's lessons. Many of us, 30 somethings, have completed college or a respective career training program, therefore, we are well on our way to accomplish the string of goals called, By the Time I am 40. Many say that the 30s are the new 20s laced with badges of experience. The new woman of 30+ is a trail blazer, a vision maker, and a total package of excellence.
If you are in your 20s, are you working towards a By the Time I am 30 goal? For the 30 something readers, what was your biggest lesson of your 20s and what advice do you have for women who are traveling the 20s trail?




Wednesday, November 9, 2011

My Interest is Pinterest



My Interest is Pinterest

Pinterest is an online pinning board. 

It is a virtual site designed to organize your visions of a blissful being.

Vision boards are visual arrangements of your likes, interests, and things that you'd like to manifest within your life. Typical vision boards include images of desired families, health, vacations, marriages, spouses, love, intimacy, or whatever the missing variable may be.

Remember, the vision boards of yesteryear...
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 The internet upgraded vision boards to virtual creations of expounding beauty. On Pinterest , one can create several boards on a topic of interest. I've created boards to represent my style, home decor, foods I like, wedding dresses, and an array of all that falls between. For me, Pinterest creates a sense of calm after a long day or helps me to balance at work. I can get lost for hours inside of Pinterest by creating my world exactly like I envision it.

How about you?

Are in the rapture of Pinterest? If so, leave your name or follow me on Pinterest. 

Monday, November 7, 2011

Music Review Monday - "So Gone" Jill Scott featuring Paul Wall



So Gone - Jill Scott featuring Paul Wall

Veteran Neo-Soul artist came to the music scene with a sense of consciousness and lyrical seduction. She captivated audiences worldwide with the depths of her organic presence and essential vibrations. She's a poet, an author, and a statuesque pillar of woman. In her latest release, on her new record label, Jill expanded her realm of presentation of song into the world of R&B. Some of her fans met this with slight resistance, however as Jilly from Philly does, she memorized them with each hum, each note, and each song on her hit CD.

So Gone represents the weakness of a woman against that diamond chipped d*ck. For those who are puzzled, that's the reckless relationship that many of us have experienced without a care for others involved because the power of the penis. Paul Wall is the perfect icing for this cake. He brings that perfect bad boy edge that can sometimes get a few of us in a little romantic trouble.

Jill Scott is a neo-soul and musical icon.



Thursday, November 3, 2011

Dear Oprah


Dear Oprah

Hey Oprah girl,

How's it going? Honey, I've been really busy lately with work, commuting, writing, and building my brand and what not. You have so been on my Things To Do List. I've meant to reach out to you for quite some time, but we continue to play phone tag, miss emails and the whole nine. But that's neither here nor there. 

How's it really going girl?       Good!         Yeah!           Me too!

Oprah girl, you know, those life classes are the absolute business. You have women saving themselves, the new buzz word is "Beloved", and honey folks are crossing the street from crazy like never before. Girl, you even have local heathens talking about, Humm chile, "when people show you who they are, BELIEVE THEM, hell the first time"...not the 29th time. (Remember that from last week) LOL

Honestly though Oprah, people miss you on daytime television and these life classes are giving folks their Oprah fix. *sigh*....but can I give you the deal....you know from Reginia to Oprah. 

Oprah, I don't know about EVERY area, but I do know in the Atlanta area, the OWN Network is extra. Girl with Comcast, and I can only speak for Comcast in my area, OWN is in the extended basic package and Oprah that's extra. There's the Triple Play Package that most middle income folk have (you know, your viewing audience) and the Triple Play gives us internet, phone, and cable for about $100 a month, plus an extra $30 for the REQUIRED boxes, fees, and taxes. Now you're pretty hip politically, so you know middle income folks are pretty tight right now, so adding on the extended basic package is just not in budget. 

It's not that I don't want to support OWN, because I do. I want to blow those Neilsen ratings right out the box but I just can't add that to my budget you know. So, I dig the Oprah's Life Classes, via the net and Facebook (remember no wall) lol, but girl I just can't add the extended basic right now. Maybe you and your team can call the Comcast folks and rearrange some things....because in my opinion....network TV is nothing without Oprah and Comcast is nothing with network programming. See how that works.

Work it out girl.

PS...Umm, I'm planning a breakfast for the Original BGC...(Original Brown Girl Crew). 
That's me, you, Gail and Michelle O. I know Michelle called you about me having a little chat with her.

Love yall though.

Ciao

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