Who's That Cougar?
May - December relationships are no longer exclusive to Hugh Hefner and his peeps. For decades, men (some dirty old men) have consistently dated and flaunted their younger, prize possessions - their woman. These guys are usually 40 and up with a 20 something bombshell on their arm. She's typically attractive, in great shape and sexually appeasing. As women age, we lose that 20 something appeal yet still remain attractive. However, for some older men, this mature beauty isn't quite what they're looking for. After, many moons of debating this behavior (sheer nonsense) women have marked their positions in the world of May-December romances.
Because we still want companionship and good sex too!
Yeah I said it.
We want companionship other than a night of Blockbuster, Netflix and Red Box. We want someone vibrant, enthusiastic, hip to new trends, and can lay it down without using Viagra and an inhaler. Hell, we want someone that can breathe without a machine, with a pill box as an accessory, and get it up without help therefore, Cougars we are.
Being a cougar is not as taboo as it once was and definitely no longer carries the stigma of "Sugar Mama" (because you can't get any of this money honey).
For me, I am not an exclusive cougar however, I primarily date men younger than me. I prefer guys 26 ish to about 32. (I'm in my mid 30s.) I don't date guys too young because for most, the maturity is just not there and neither is the money. (You can't date if you're broke). Secondly, I am not an exclusive cougar because I don't want to limited my dating opportunities. If a great older guy comes along, we'll see (that's a case by case thing). You know the old saying, "older men gives you worms".
Ok, I digress.
I enjoy dating younger guys because they are uninhibited, spontaneous, and creative. For me, they are also been more like gentlemen and engage in traditional dating roles. They have yet to be spoiled and littered by the negative experiences that relationships bring therefore they carry a better attitude. Additionally, we enjoy similar tastes in music, food, travel, and entertainment.
The downside of dating younger men includes: not quite established, immaturity, not yet ready for marriage, and the lack of resources (remember you can't date if you're broke). Overall, I will continue to date younger guys, until Mr. Right comes along. I am not sure if he'll be a cub or a "Jerry" (from Single Ladies) but I am open to the possibilities.
Have you ever dated younger?
What were your experiences?